Well thank the Lord! This semester is OVER (well, technically I have one more paper due on Monday, but I’m not worried about it). It’s been quite the adventure. This was my first semester at a university, and it was definitely a different experience than tech college. Now that I’m basically done, I decided to reflect back on what I can take away from this semester. And, naturally, I decided to blog about it. So without further ado, here are five things I learned this semester.
- I’m still not 100% on what I want to “do with my life”, but I’ve learned to accept that it’s okay that I don’t have it all figured out.
Honestly, if I could give one tip to high school seniors who are freaking out about what they’re going to do after they graduate, it would be this: don’t stress about it. I was so stressed out last year because I wanted to take so many different paths in life – I wanted to go to school for something I loved, I wanted to be a youth minister, I wanted to study music therapy, I wanted to be an art director, I wanted to train therapy dogs, etc. I would freak out because, at the time, I was at the tech college doing none of those things, and I was wondering if what I was truly meant to do wasn’t anything I had thought of. What if I missed my chance to do what I really wanted to do? What if I wasn’t going to school for the right thing? What if I wasn’t even supposed to go to school?! IT WAS SO STRESSFUL.
When I decided to switch over to the university and pursue a major in arts management, that’s when I kind of said, “Screw it. I can’t keep sitting here waiting for God to scream at me with a megaphone telling me my life’s purpose. I just gotta go for something.” So I thought about it some, and decided to try arts management. And you know what? I like it. A lot. Am I absolutely positive that this is what I’ll end up doing with my life? No. I might get out of college and become a mime. I don’t know. But I’ve come to terms with the fact that it’s okay that I’m not sure what I’m going to do with the rest of my life. I just need to remain open and be ready for whatever life throws at me.
I think this is the most important thing I’ve learned this semester. Accepting it has lifted so much stress from my life. So just try worrying less. You’ll feel so much better. Take it from me.
- Nobody else knows how adulting works either. Just fake confidence.
You know how you look at some people your age and wonder, “Wow, they’re so good at this whole being-an-adult thing. How do they do it?” Well guess what, chances are…THEY HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEY’RE DOING. They’re just really, really good at faking it.
Here’s the thing: it doesn’t matter what it is – being an adult, math, public speaking – if you act confident and pretend that you know what you’re talking about, people will believe that you do know what you’re talking about. I mean, politicians do it all the time (OOOOHHHHH). Inwardly, you’re freaking out because you’re actually SO CONFUSED about everything and YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW TAXES WORK and you still don’t have your social security number memorized and HOW THE HELL DOES INSURANCE WORK and by the way SOMEONE REALLY NEEDS TO EXPLAIN TAXES TO ME.
But the great thing is, the more you fake confidence, you’ll eventually feel more confident. And then one day you become so confident that you laugh as you effortlessly fill out those tax forms. I mean, you filled them out wrong, but you filled them out with confidence, and that’s all that matters, right?
- College isn’t for everyone.
I personally love college. I love learning. University is definitely for me. I know that my college degree isn’t necessarily going to get me my dream job, but that isn’t why I’m here. I’m going to college to learn and experience new things. Nobody forced me to go to college. It was a decision I made completely on my own.
But not everyone is like that. Some people hate college. Some people don’t care to study for four more years past high school. And that’s totally fine. So here’s a piece of advice: If you don’t want to go to college, then don’t. Nothing is wrong with that. I’d hate for you to go to college and spend four years of your life in misery when you’d rather be doing something else. You’d be doing yourself a favor as well as doing everyone who wants to be at college a favor. I hate listening to kids grumble about how much they hate college and don’t want to be there. It gets old real fast, and makes the whole college experience less enjoyable for those who care about it.
So go to college if you want to, or don’t go if you don’t want to. Simple.
- I am the worst musician ever when it comes to practicing.
…Which is why I’m not a music major. I decided to take violin lessons with the violin professor this semester. It was a last minute decision, and I’m happy I did it, but I also kind of regret it. I feel like I’ve improved a lot with violin because of lessons, but it was also quite stressful. Even though I’m not a music major/minor, practicing took up a lot of time and sometimes caused me a lot of stress. And it doesn’t help that I am THE LAZIEST MUSICIAN EVER. I hate practicing. I hate walking up three flights of stairs to find a practice room, then get my violin out, then tune it, then play scales, and then practice my solo repertoire. Some days, I just didn’t practice, and then I would totally have to fake it at my weekly lesson. I KNOW. I AM A HORRIBLE MUSICIAN. Needless to say, as much as I enjoyed the experience, I’m not doing lessons again next semester. I’m lazy and I like to just play when I feel like playing.
- And finally, the Hamilton soundtrack was the key to surviving this semester.
What’s that, you say? You don’t know what Hamilton is?? WELL EXCUSE YOU. On a list of things that aren’t okay, never having listened to the Hamilton soundtrack is near the top of the list. Hamilton helped me get through this semester. So do yourself a favor and just go listen to the soundtrack. IT IS LIFE-CHANGING OKAY.
So there you have it, five things I learned this semester. Hopefully, I’ll be back blogging more frequently over break!
Until next time.